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Leave and Cleave (2)

December 3, 2025

This is the second part of the insightful post by Ps Emmanuel Kyei Boate of the Church of Pentecost.

As we continue our series on staying married let’s go back to our foundational Biblical passage in Genesis 2:24.

In this same passage the Bible says “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”

Now we have established that the married person must LEAVE physically, psychologically, emotionally, spiritually to form a unique INDEPENDENT union with their spouses which is devoid of any external interferences.

Now After leaving, the next thing to do is to CLEAVE. To cleave means sticking together, bonding together, forming a union that is inseparably strong.

We will be discussing a few points on what it means to CLEAVE.

The first way of cleaving to your wife or husband i will say is to make your spouse your best friend.

‭‭Yes Make your spouse your best friend. Have good chats together. Many couples don’t chat. It’s a silent trade at home. Find a way of having a unique way you talk and chat.

In your attempt to CLEAVE have time to talk to each other. “As for me I don’t like to talk” so you’re in the house with your wife and there’s no communication. I mean no laughter, no giggle yet when you go out you’re able to talk to other girls so nicely. Don’t say me yere nkɔmmɔ nyɛ dɛ! Ɛnyɛ dɛ koraa engage.

Secondly show affection to each other. Value your spouse. Elkanah asked Hannah in 1 Samuel 1:8 “am I not to you more than 10 sons?”

Sometimes when you see some couples in town you wonder if they are enemies. The man is walking so fast as if he needs the toilet and the woman too has “fichiw” her eyes and walking so slow as if she has eggs in her dunality.

You’ve been married for 5 years, never have you held your husband’s hand in public mpo da. And for some people, but for an occasion that needed a picture of you and your wife, you don’t have any romantic picture apart from your wedding day one.

When you see some of the pictures you wonder if they are enemies hm. Aha yɛ kwan ho. The “mehwɛ me baabi” kind of thingy

Another way of cleaving is to have emotional bonding thru sex. Sex seems like an area in marriage that many Christians don’t want to talk about. You don’t even know how to invite her for sex. Every day one style hm

Right from work you come home and tell her on the bed “Akua yɛ wo nan yie na me mbra mu” wei! Ɔnyɛ ne nan yie sɛn?

People get married and still feel shy to talk about sex.

Stories of Christian ladies virtually starving their husbands of sex abounds. They give it once a while. A young man once told me Osofo I get it once in 4 months. I asked if the wife was sick he said no! I said Ei Koo ɛneɛ woo wu!

Once in 4 months? And the lady claims she’s a career woman and wants to keep her shape. Who says sex will give you Obolo stomach?

So many Christian men are being starved of sex and for fear of being disciplined in church they walk around looking tibɔɔ. Koo sualelai sanu

Kwɛ career woman gbelemɔ shinaa ko ni oblanu atsu nii, wɔn kpa fai

Once again I wish you all well and praying with you that these words of mine will be backed by the power of the Holy Spirit to bring some grace to you in our marriages .