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Leave and Cleave (3)

December 3, 2025

This is the third part of the insightful post by Ps Emmanuel Kyei Boate of the Church of Pentecost.

We’ve been discussing the subject of Leave and Cleave and this morning as we continue I want us to consider some more issues on why it is necessary to Leave and Cleave.

Let me again make it very clear that the Institution of Marriage is not evil. The Bible says he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour with the Lord. Marriage itself is very good. At least I am a clear definition of how marriage can be good to a person. I married the “rightest” person . And of course she also chose well

If marriage will be bad the actors are the ones who make it bad. Many struggling marriages sadly have not applied the Foundational Principle of Leaving and Cleaving. It’s either the man is still cleaving to his numerous sex partners, family, friends or the wife is misbehaving with her ex or someone is just not being a Christian at home.

People are in marriages and still want to be selfish with how they handle themselves. They want to be selfish with their moneys, time, decisions, engagements etc.

Reading thru the comments from a previous post on why Christian marriages are failing I saw that managing in laws and external family members is a huge challenge in our kind of world.

Man, you’re married but your main priority is your brothers and sisters. Your wife has no say whatsoever in how you manage your commitment to your family. This is a problem. Our cultural foundations play a major role in this issue.

Brother, leave and cleave as a biblical foundation is not a joke oo. Yes your family is your family but your wife is your WIFE. Don’t fall for that lie that because you have made your wife your topmost priority she has gyimi you or made you Tok bɛlɛ.

And the women too you’re married and your mother is your first go to person. Every decision has to be placed on Mama’s desk to receive her signature before you come to Opana. This is a Problem.

Secondly LEAVE and CLEAVE means leaving your exes. Many Christian marriages are failing because the main actors are simply failing to be Christians.

How can you be married and still keep amorous ties with your exes. And I’m told some of you married ladies are going to your exes to give them Forgiveness sex. Ei na MASCOMPADIATION no ayɛ fo saa? Herh! That you can go and open your legs and not feel any remorse or shame for your ex to errrm PAWA you? No wonder DNAs are failing hmm

It is a SIN to go to your ex to offer him or her any kind of compensation sex. Na sɛbi bedmatics nso ɛyɛ bofrot a yɛde kyɛ? What kind of world are living in today koraa ah?

Again LEAVING AND CLEAVING also means managing your finances together.

When you CLEAVE “this is my money and that is your money” does not come in. Everything belongs to the two of you. When would-be couples come to me and I ask them how they’ll manage their finances and they say “Sofo everyone will manage their finances” I know that e no go kyɛɛ asɛm bɛba.

But I don’t blame the women who keep their monies away from their husbands. There are many lazy broke mojos who just take advantage of their wives. All they bring to the marriage is a hard waist and big gbola. They contribute zilch.

The sad thing is when they get something, it’s for they the men and their families and sometimes sadly their side chicks. You have not LEFT and you have not CLEAVED yet.

Marriage must be honourable and the marriage bed undefiled that is what the Bible says.

To a young Christian married man or woman, you may have made some foundational mistakes which is making your marriage struggle. It’s time to be Christian. Yes be that Christian at home and not only in church.

Some of us come to church and blow tongues in 250 TPM (tongues per minute) yet can’t handle basic relational matters.

Let Jesus reign in that marriage and that trust me, the document on your desk waiting for your signature will no longer look attractive.

Once again I wish you all well and praying with you that these words of mine will be backed by the power of the Holy Spirit to bring some grace to you in our marriages .